Wednesday, February 13, 2019

What does it mean to “hold space” for someone else?

“It means that we are willing to walk alongside another person in whatever journey they’re on without judging them, making them feel inadequate, trying to fix them, or trying to impact the outcome. When we hold space for other people, we open our hearts, offer unconditional support, and let go of judgement and control.

Tips on HOLDING SPACE for others grieving

1. Give them permission to trust their own intuition and wisdom

2. Give people only as much information as they can handle

3. Don’t take their power away

4. Keep your own ego out of it

5. Make them feel safe enough to fail

6. Give guidance with help and humility and thoughtfulness

7. Create a container for complex emotions, trauma, fear, anger, etc.,

8. Allow them to make different decisions and to have different experiences than you would”

By Heather Plett

Sunday, December 31, 2017

As another year comes to an end,  I look back and wonder where the days went. Time seems to go faster as we age, doesn't it? Yet in the same breath, I feel like it's been forever since I last held my girl. I think its pretty normal for a bereaved parent. For me, it's one year closer to being with her again.... yet I look back and see how far I have come in the past 365 days. I have finished yet another degree, this time not to climb the corporate ladder, but to learn to help others find peace and happiness in their lives. I don't know yet where that will take me, but I find myself surrounded by new friends and opportunities I never thought possible. Many exciting new things are on the horizon, and I believe this year will continue to change who I am and which direction my journey will take me.

And I realize I'm learning to live life again, to laugh and find some joy in the living of it. My son, my grandsons, my family, all fill some of the emptiness that still lingers. My  new-found friendships wrap me in a warm embrace like I have never known. I have been blessed to learn from some of the greatest teachers. The change inside of me is profound. I see people and things in a new light, recognizing that we each have a purpose, that we are connected in ways that go beyond this human understanding. I've learned that letting go of Sheridan in the physical doesn't mean I'm losing anything- quite the opposite! The more we learn to let go, the more our loved one's are with us! She is very active in guiding me, as well as a lot of in-my-face proof of her presence here. She still calls me out when it's necessary, and brings me to where I need to be. It doesn't mean that I stopped grieving, or crying myself to sleep at times, or that the pain is gone. It means that I am learning to absorb it, with the knowledge that she never went anywhere, and that we will be together again. There is light and hope in knowing that we don't die, we simply step into another form.

This past year I attended the Afterlife Research and Education Institute Symposium in Scottsdale. Being a blend of left and right brain thinking, I rely on scientific evidence as well as personal experience. I am 99% convinced that there is no death. I keep 1% of healthy skepticism- but I cannot deny what I have seen and experienced first hand. This gathering of scientists, researchers, highly tested mediums, and people like me who have had after death contact with a loved one, was an incredible privilege. And above all, it was a "Love fest" of over 500 people who have become aware of who we are and why we are here. It is an unlearning of religious dogma, a realization of a greater reality in our lives. This year it has doubled in size, and these types of groups and events are happening all over the world.

I'm going to throw this out there, in the hope that it might help someone make sense of changes they are feeling, but don't understand. More people are waking up to this truth every day. Some of you are feeling this energy shift, but don't understand it. It is a shift in consciousness. An awareness that there is more to life than what we see.

I know without a doubt that this life, with all of its highs and lows, are part of our soul's plan, that we chose the lessons we wanted to learn while here. Many question why a parent would choose such pain, but for me it is very clear. It breaks us open so the light can get in. Our soul lives on after physical life. I have experienced the proof of this in many ways. And with this comes the awareness of our true purpose here- to love, to live with compassion and empathy for others, that we are all connected- not only to each other, but to the Divine Source of All that is. This spiritual awareness has helped me to heal, and in return has given me the desire to help others that find themselves on this path. Each of us has been given gifts to share, and it is the reason we are here. Although events of this past year were difficult for many of us, I will always believe that love wins. These things have to happen to shine a light on the darkness, to expose it, in order to change it. Instead of giving into fear and hate, we can choose to focus on love, and peace. Carl Jung called it the Collective Consciousness- and by raising the vibration we can change everything. As for me, I am learning to live in the present moment, without worrying about yesterday or tomorrow, just living in this moment, right now.  Once we take off the mask, when we can dig deep and let go of all of the fear that blinds us, we become who we have forgotten we are- beautiful, amazing spirit beings. I'm aware that many don't understand this, those who have been spoon-fed religious dogma that leaves out the truth of who and what we are. They got part of it right, just left out some important pieces. (There are over 1000 religions in the world!)  Now science is confirming what many already know, thru quantum physics, biocentrism, and scientific research all over the world. That our consciousness is eternal, and that our thoughts, our feelings and words, create the reality we live in. Each one of us has the power to change our life just by changing our perceptions. If you can change your negative thoughts and words for just 30 days, you'll be amazed at what happens!

I know my babygirl is proud of me. I choose to honor her life, the lessons she taught me, and the gifts she gave by holding out my hand to others. For those of you that are with me on this path of spiritual awareness, I thank you. There are no coincidences- we are here to help each other.

This coming year for me is about learning, new beginnings, and infinite possibilities. I wish all of you the same. We don't have to agree on everything to help each  other. As Ram Dass said, "We are all just walking each other home". I'm happy to have you all on this journey with me.

As I finished this post, it was 11:11, a sign an angel is near. But then, she always is. Happy New Year, and Namaste.

Sunday, July 9, 2017

Opening Up to Infinite Possibilities- Sheridan’s Way

As the mother of a child who transitioned a little over 3 years ago, I am often asked how I survived her loss. Where did I find the strength? Is there anything I can share that will help them to heal? And as they speak, I wonder if they will listen when I tell them that she didn’t actually leave me at all? That our relationship is as strong as it ever was, even if they can’t see her? Can I help them to understand that their child remains by their side? I’m not sure I would have believed it – until it happened to me. My loss is not unique – but my story is. It is my hope that by sharing it, others will be inspired to do the same. Because that is where the healing begins….

I am a Spiritual and Intuitive Life Coach, who helps teach parents about their continued relationship with their child, how to recognize signs and ways they communicate, and how to develop the ability to experience an ongoing connection. But before Sheridan passed, I spent 30 years in business administration, obtaining my MBA just a month before my daughter transitioned. My life was probably much like what most single parents experience. I wasn’t a particularly religious person, and had only a little knowledge of spirituality that began shortly before she left. I remember her laughing at my attempts at meditation, and the day she asked me what I thought happened when we died. I told her I believed that our spirit never really dies, but I didn’t really know why I believed that. I could never have imagined that my belief would be put to the test just 2 weeks after that conversation... 

My beautiful little girl was a whirlwind, stubborn, willful, vibrant, funny, and intelligent; a magical creature who embraced all that life could give in her short 15 years. She sustained an undetected brain injury after being kicked in the head during a cheerleading stunt. It sat there silently for a few weeks, until the night of February 28th, 2014, when it exploded into life, taking her into the darkness of a coma. For 3 weeks, I struggled with questions of life and faith, and finally allowed death to claim the light from her physical body. And in that moment, everything I thought I knew or believed in changed. 

From the first week following Sheridan’s passing, I experienced her presence (clairsentience), saw her appear before me in a darkened room (clairvoyance), and heard her speak to me (clairaudience). My mind could not deny what was happening. She was right by my side. Her beautiful, golden energy continued to embrace me as I navigated my way thru the darkness of grief. And I finally realized that nothing had really changed – except that she was now in the Light. It was like she went on a vacation to another country, so I had to learn a new language to communicate. Despite my heavy grief, I suddenly found myself in a whole new world, one where everything is infinite. A knowing that there there is no death, only a changing of form. Once I understood that love never dies, I began the process of learning to live with my new-found awareness, with a foot in each world. I submerged myself in metaphysics, afterlife research, mediumship, and all things spiritual. What shook me to the very core of my soul changed me from the inside out. And guiding me the whole way was my beautiful daughter, Sheridan. She began to teach me about who I was, and nudged me onto the path of helping others.

Two years later, I was asked to be an affiliate co-leader of a national grief support group for bereaved parents, Helping Parents Heal. Through this organization,  I meet the most incredible people. The loss of a child creates profound change in most – they start scholarships, create non-profits for healing grief, write books and create blogs. Many find themselves on a path of spiritual awakening, and discover a deep need to find a way to serve others. Most importantly, they open themselves up to discovering how to remain connected to their child. Each one of us has spiritual gifts. One may receive a gift of mediumship, another the gift of intuition, and another a gift of healing. The one thing I know for sure is that we all have the ability to connect with our child. And that has become my life’s purpose – to help other parents to heal. To not just survive but to find peace in the face of one of life's most difficult challenges. 

I often run across people that are in various stages of grief and the early path of spirituality. In the beginning, I wanted everyone else to be as excited as I was to have awakened to the truth….and quickly found that if they didn’t think I was crazy, they were arrogant in their belief that they were much more enlightened than I.  I realized that arguing wasn’t the way to impart any wisdom I might have gained from my experiences. It was much better to walk the talk, planting seeds here and there. And I let go of the need to have control of the outcome. I didn't just believe that no one ever dies, I KNEW it.  

So now as I navigate through my new life, I find that the adage, “when the student is ready, the teacher will come” to be truer than I ever realized. Many teachers have appeared just when I needed them, and in turn I find others drawn to me so that I can teach them. The Universe is full of beautiful synchronicities – and infinite possibilities. As my daughter in spirit says, “Don’t take it all so seriously, mama. I’m fine, and I’m happy. It’s just a hologram, and you can create any life you want. I will always be with you. Just think of me, and I’m right there.” So I’m learning how to do it Sheridan’s way – embracing all that life has to offer, while sharing love and compassion. It’s about opening up to our connection to our loved ones and creating a life that honors them- infinite living, where anything is possible. Let me help you find it. 

Sunday, July 2, 2017

A little about me....

Terri is a highly sensitive empath and intuitive who believes in spiritual gifts and our ability to tap into them to find our true path. Terri uses her intuitive and spiritual gifts to help bring her clients clarity, purpose, fulfillment, healing, and balance in their daily lives, by tapping into the Universal Energy that lives within. Terri holds an MBA, and completed a program as a Holistic Wellness Practitioner at Southwest Institute of Healing Arts, specializing in Life Coaching, and is a Certified Hypnotherapist. She studied Intuitive and Spiritual Coaching under experienced professionals and energy healers, who provided training in awakening her psychic and intuitive connections. As a bereaved mother, Terri often works with bereaved parents in finding their way back from grief. She is a co-affiliate leader for a national grief support organization, Helping Parents, that provides resources for parents who have lost a child. Terri is currently practicing in Tucson, Arizona. She is the mother of two children, her son Justin, and her daughter in spirit, Sheridan, and 3 grandsons. Terri is currently working on her first book, and loves to travel when her schedule permits. Find Terri’s blog and website at, Instagram @terripetz, or Facebook/infiniteliving.


What does it mean to “hold space” for someone else? “It means that we are willing to walk alongside another person in whatever journey the...